Hello World,

Obviously I am new here, since this is my first post. 

You are either a trusted friend to already have this web address or you have found my content to be so engaging that you have gone all the way to the beginning to get the full story. 

Either way, welcome. 

This is where I will be writing to work through my exit from purity culture and the evangelical church. 

Both of these institutions have severely impacted my life in extremely negative ways. They have led to some of the worst pain I have ever endured... my conservative evangelical Christian husband's multiple infidelities and the excuses made for him. 

I will share more about our life and our story at a later date. 

For now, I want to say that: 

-if you are here because you have been betrayed by your spouse I am so sorry. I will share tips, books, podcasts, music, movies, and more that have helped me on this journey. This is a terrible club to be made involuntarily a part of. I hope that I can offer you some peace and solidarity.

-if you are here because you have betrayed someone and you are looking for resources/help, sit down and listen well.

-if you have stumbled across The Patchwork Wife by accident I encourage you to poke around since it is estimated that 40% of marriages have at least one incident of infidelity and the divorce rate for evangelicals is 51%. Clearly the way things have been done hasn't worked, so maybe it is time that we do something different.

-if you are here because you are an exvangelical, understand that I am still a Christian. But, I am in the middle of deconstructing my faith. I am relearning Jesus without the trappings of Josh Harris, James Dobson, John Piper, and the like. I will share resources that I find. If you have a great resource shoot me a DM here.  

You can call me Autumn, The Patchwork Wife, and I am piecing life back together after purity culture trauma, evangelical lies, and infidelity cover-ups.